5 things to do now that you're engaged

You said “YES!”. Now it’s time to get you to “I DO”

Your favorite person did it! You are now an engaged woman! Girl, call your BFF, parents and other loved ones because you’re getting married! The days after getting engaged can be filled with champagne toasts and we wanted to give you a few pointers to help make your wedding planning process easy and fun!

1. Set the tone for your big day! Create an inspo board and set price goals


Creating an inspiration board for your wedding can help you hone in on the aesthetic you want from everything related to the look of your wedding gown and hair and makeup, to the design elements of the actual wedding ceremony, and mood of the reception. It will be instrumental in helping you decide between hydrangeas and peonies. Seriously.

Setting your price goals aka your budget, will also help you to understand what you have to work within and help you prioritize where to allocate your dineros.

On this journey you will have to make a lot of decisions and deposits—all of which can be overwhelming. Being able to refer back to your inspo boards and budget will help you be more decisive when trying to decide whether King Proteas or Carnations fit your vibe.

2. Pick a wedding date. But don’t commit, yet.


Picking your wedding date is very different from booking your wedding date. Both should be done in the beginning of your planning process because your booked wedding date will set the tone for everything else. The wedding date you pick should (ideally) fit your inspiration (seasonally appropriate)  or the uniqueness of your union. The date you book will also be based on the venue’s availability. Remember that choosing atypical days (ie. a Friday or Sunday) can also give you a break on the overall price while also being more likely to be available. Once you’ve picked your date, you can begin inquiring about availability at the venues of your preference. The venue may not have the date you pick available, but it has the following weekend available. That’s okay! Book it and onto the next.

3. Time to shop. No, it’s not too early.


Brides often make the mistake of holding off on wedding dress shopping until a few months before the big day. When should you start shopping for a wedding dress? You should begin shopping immediately after you pick your wedding date. Wedding gowns are typically made-to-order and can take four to eight months to be constructed. However, you want to give yourself an additional two to four months for alterations and worse-case-scenarios (they do happen). Your wedding gown shopping experience should be fun, informative and relaxed. That being said, if you are reading this later in the process of your wedding planning, at a&bé we can accommodate shorter wedding time frames, some of our designers offer no rush fees on selected wedding gowns and some can be rushed for a charge. Girl, we got you! Just call us so we can help set you up with an appointment asap!

4. Let’s stay on dresses a little longer. Keep these pointers in mind while shopping.


It’s okay if you pick a wedding dress completely different from what you thought you’d like on pinterest. There’s something magical about walking into a showroom full of beautiful wedding gowns and trying them on. Your bridal stylist will help you figure out all the things you love, hate and never thought you’d like. Trust her; she’s got your back.

And when you have the “ah-ha!” moment accompanied maybe by tears, or the calm realization that you are actually getting married, savour that moment. However, as exciting as it may be, avoid trying to relive it. The more you shop the more confused you’ll be. So, once you've found THE dress, we will cheers with a toast, then check “wedding dress” off your list and move on to the next item on your planning list!

5. Remember your partner!


In the hustle and bustle of wedding planning, sometimes we can lose focus on why we are doing this! Make sure to make time for each other! Talk about the big life things, enjoy the little  moments, and keep in mind that the end goal is that you are committing to each other! Your focus is this person that you can't imagine life without, and you both get to have a sweet party that celebrates that love.

Alright, babe. You’re ready. Enjoy this whirlwind of a ride. It’s happening; you’re getting married!


Nicole Lacriola